'When Someone You Love Is Kinky' helps 'non-kinky' people understand and communicate with their kinky friends, partners and family members. It includes guidelines for dealing with the emotional turmoil of the coming-out process; brief and non-threatening descriptions of the most common kinks (and ideas about why people enjoy them); suggestions for how to talk to your kinky friend or family member in a way that promotes good communication; explanations of how kinky people keep themselves safe while exploring different sexual orientations; a glossary of commonly used terminology from the kink communities; a resource guide to help the reader find further information and support.